Wednesday, March 7, 2018

De-Voted

» I have a friend who has formed a new friendship with a man who is seriously narcissistic. This man maintains his eyelids at half-mast and I've often wondered if he’s subconsciously created a self-monument to the death of his personality.

» I have a friend who is married to a woman who is smugly arrogant, self-serving, and so toxically vexatious that I can’t fathom he has sex with her without wearing a hazmat suit.

» I have a friend who has a friend who is so lacking in social skills and so vacuously vapid that I've felt oddly tempted to squeeze her cheeks just to see if she squeaked.

» I have a friend who is quiet, introverted, and timid. He is perceived as arrogant and egocentric.

» I have dated women who few of my friends like. I’m often treated to sermons on their shortcomings.

This morning I had a thought: why should it matter whether or not we like our friends’ associates? Shouldn't it exclusively matter whether or not the associates are kind and gentle with our loves?

If he is generous with his kindness and his friendship – why does it matter if I’d choose him as my friend?

If she is considerate and sympathetic with her husband – why does it matter if I’d choose her as my mate?

If she treats him to joy and companionship – why does it matter if I’d choose her as my confidant?

If he is compassionate and charitable with me – why does it matter if you like him?

If she carefilled and loving with me – why does it matter if you’d choose her to walk at your side?

Relationships aren't a democracy. We haven’t the right to cast stones or votes.